Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Being a Bully and Acting Assertive

There is a difference between being a bully and acting assertive and there is indeed a problem when one crosses that line. There is also a very interesting thing that I have witnessed in my career with bullies in business. You see I ran a Franchising Company and I often noticed an interesting and yet alarming thing with some of my franchisees.

They would complain about their boss and unfairness to me prior to buying a franchise. Then after they started their business they turned into little Hilters and treated their new employees even worse than they were once treated. It makes me wish I had never spent all the time to help them get into a business of their own and give them the American Dream, it is rather unfortunate really.

It is a real common human psychological problem. It is so common, I am very careful with people who complain too much and study their words, body language and such and motivation too. You need to watch out when people complain too much, sometimes it is an outlet, other times it should be a warning. Of course if one is pushed too hard inevitably they will push back, thus this is something that should be known too.

What is amazing is when I talked to these franchisees about this I was fascinated at how they said that they had have considered this? There is a notion of humans who get tired of being pushed around and played, often they will take a stand, which can be perceived as bullying.

When you are talking to friends in person or on the phone think about this and think of your online communication and how it might be misinterpreted by some to be that way? The question is do you really care? Think about it, preventing bullying starts with you.L. Winslow is an Economic Advisor to the Online Think Tank, a Futurist and retired entreprenuer. Currently he is planning a bicycle ride across the US to raise money for charity and is sponsored by http://www.Calling-Plans.com and all the proceeds will go to various charities who sign up.

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